Men must stand with women to end domestic violence & human trafficking

VIEW PRINT VERSION – Naples Daily News
By Tom Leipzig, Chair
The Shelter Board of Directors

The most recent annual statistics for Collier County show there were 1,686 domestic violence calls to 911, affecting nearly every neighborhood in our community. It is very likely that you know one of these callers. They could be a neighbor, a co-worker or even a relative.

On March 9, Collier County Commissioners will proclaim the third annual Gentle’men Against Domestic Violence® Day. On this day, GADV calls on men to stand as equal partners with women to end domestic violence and human trafficking in Collier County and beyond. A full-page ad in the Naples Daily News will include the names of more than 250 like-minded men who are taking a stand as part of our 250 Men & More campaign. These men share the belief that we have a unique role and responsibility to create social change, now and for future generations.

In addition to joining GADV, there are many things that men can do to become part of the solution.

Examine and challenge your own thoughts about gender and the role you might, even unintentionally, play in supporting men who are abusive. This could take form in jokes, song lyrics or sharing stories that demean women and endorse sexual abuse or the oppression of women and girls. Even if you don’t join in, remember that silence is affirming, and is essentially consent. When we choose not to speak out against domestic violence, we are supporting it.

If you are a parent or guardian, educate and re-educate your sons and other young men about our responsibility in ending domestic violence. Challenge traditional images of manhood that stop us and future generations from actively taking a stand to end violence against women.

I challenge all men to stand with us and recognize that violence against women is not the responsibility of women and the violence will not end until men become part of the solution to end it. We must take an active role in creating a cultural and social shift that no longer tolerates violence against women.

With the support of The Shelter, GADV strives to create systems of accountability to women in our community. Violence and discrimination against women will end only when we take direction from those who understand it most, women.

Today in America, one in three women will be a victim of domestic violence at some point in her lifetime. With your support, we can help ensure that no young girl or woman in our community will ever be on the terrifying end of a 911 call. It’s time to stand up and speak out.

For more information on how you can join GADV, go to naplesshelter.org/gadv. If you know or suspect that someone is a victim of domestic violence or human trafficking, call The Shelter’s 24-hour crisis hotline at 239-775-1101.