After months of dance practice, we had a great time raising public awareness of domestic violence, Oct. 15, conducting flash mobs throughout the Naples area. In some locations we were joined by members of the public who had learned the dance on their own. Even our trolley driver joined in! Enjoy a video of our performance at Mercato.


Raising Gentle’men

A Program of Gentle’men Against Domestic Violence (GADV) ®, the overall goal of this eight-week curriculum is to promote gender equality and to end violence in society. The activities are based on a holistic approach towards learning that seeks to educate for change.
RaisingGentle’men will help boys replace stereotypical ideas of men as controlling, aggressive and gaining power through violence, with the idea that men can be gentle, compassionate and kind without risking their identities. Some of the ideas that are challenged include:ƒ
  • aggressive, hyper masculine media images of menƒ
  • images of men as loners who are separate from societyƒ
  • showing emotion or having compassion as a sign of weakness in a manƒ
  • verbal communication as a feminine traitƒ
  • male success defined by rugged individualism and isolation

Why does Collier County Need This Program?ƒ

85% of domestic violence incidents are due to a patriarchal attitude. In 2006-2007 School Year, Collier county schools had 699 incidents of school crime and violence. By December 1, 2008, each school district is required to adopt a policy prohibiting bullying and harassment of any student or employee of a public K-12 educational institution (Florida Anti-bullying bill).
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Conversely, a child or young person experiencing domestic violence may become the bully at school as this may be the only environment in which they have control. (Davina James- Hanman)
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The overall goal of the curriculum is to promote gender equality, increase self esteem, and end violence in society by challenging erroneous or limiting attitudes and beliefs.
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The activities are based on a holistic approach towards learning with a methodology and content that seeks to educate for change and violence prevention by empowering students through the acquisition of knowledge (cognitive), the application of skills (behavioral) and a change in attitude (affective).

Learning Objectives:

  • ƒIncreased ability to understand and empathize with others
  • ƒImproved social skills and competence
  • Increased problem solving abilityƒ
  • Developed sense of personal power and belonging
  • Acceptance of less rigid gender rolesƒ
  • Development of respect and tolerance for differences
  • Ability to use critical thinking skills to make healthy lifestyle choices
  • Stronger self awareness and self esteem

Karen Smith recently joined the Board of Directors of The Shelter for Abused Women & Children. A full-time Naples resident, Smith moved to the community in 2004 with her husband, F. Samuel Smith, Past Chairman, The Shelter Board of Directors

Smith brings to the board expertise in financial services and nonprofit agencies. She held positions with A. G. Becker, Inc. in Chicago and New York City before joining R. Gilder & Co., New York.

She married and raised three children while living in Brussels, Tokyo and Seoul, where she volunteered for three years at the Holt Adoption Agency before adopting her Korean daughter there. After moving to Connecticut in 1981, Smith served on the YMCA Board of Directors which founded the Children’s Centers day care facilities. In 1997, she accepted a position as Assistant to the President and Board Chairman of TechnoServe, an international not-for-profit organization developing agricultural cooperatives into businesses in Latin American and Africa.

“Karen’s financial experience and her work with nonprofit agencies, both domestic and international, make her an exceptional addition to our board of directors,” says Linda Oberhaus, Executive Director of The Shelter. “We are extremely pleased and grateful for her willingness to serve.”

The Shelter for Abused Women & Children will recognize National Domestic Violence Awareness Month with its Annual Children’s Fair and Peace March on Monday, Oct. 27, 2014 at the Collier County Immokalee Sports Complex, 505 Escambia St. in Immokalee.

“The Peace March is an annual highlight for our Immokalee outreach program,” said Shelter Executive Director Linda Oberhaus, “In addition to bringing the community together for some family-friendly fun, this march embodies our mission to prevent, protect and prevail over domestic violence through advocacy, empowerment and social change.”

The Children’s Fair will run from 3-6 p.m., followed by the police-escorted Peace March at 6 p.m. The event is free and open to the public. Activities include children’s games, entertainment, food, and prizes. There will also be a talent show and information booths hosted by partner agencies.

For more information, call The Shelter’s Immokalee Outreach office at 239-657-5700.

In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness month, residents of The Shelter for Abused Women & Children are receiving some much-needed stress-relieving care thanks to two local therapists.

Dr. Alexandria Christ (left photo), a Doctor of Oriental Medicine, is providing residents with trauma, PTSD, anxiety and stress, treating pressure points located on both ears. The painless therapy takes about one hour per patient and the needles remain in patient’s ears for up to 45 minutes.

Dr. Christ, of Bodhi Mind Healing, Inc., has been practicing Traditional Chinese Medicine since 2000 and has an integrative “East meets West” approach in her treatment protocols, which include acupuncture, Trigger Point Therapy (or also called Dry Needling), Acupuncture Injection Therapy for pain management and Cosmetic Acupuncture injection Therapy.

In addition to acupuncture therapy, residents will also receive chair and table massage therapy from Nationally Certified Therapeutic Massage Therapist Jaime L. Kliewe.

Kliewe specializes in the relief of chronic muscular tension and holistic pain management. She is trained in deep tissue techniques, neuro-muscular therapy, trigger point work, stretching and ROM (Range of Motion), pregnancy massage, sports massage, Swedish massage and postural and gait assessment.

“For most of our residents, these sort of services are cost-prohibitive,” says Linda Oberhaus, Executive Director of The Shelter for Abused Women & Children. “We are grateful to Dr. Christ and Ms. Kliewe, for donating their time to improve our residents’ quality of life through their services.”

Thank you to Moe’s for hosting a benefit run for Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Oct. 2, 2014. Funds from the run went to The Shelter for Abused Women & Children.
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Below is a 30 second video from the  Florida Coalition Against Domestic Violence Foundation that highlights the important values young boys can learn playing pee wee/junior football when they are exposed to adults that share beliefs about, and model, healthy relationships. Be sure to watch until the end where information is shared about how a child may reach out for help if a current or former intimate partner is “messing with their mom.”

Please share, repost, talk about it, and if you can, donate $5 to help survivors of domestic violence and their children. All proceeds will go to the FCADV Foundation to support the life saving work of Florida’s 42 certified domestic violence centers.

We can end domestic violence and create communities where healthy relationships thrive and are valued. Please help make that happen.

You can make a difference – learn the facts, take action and transform lives, homes, schools and communities today!

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Our confidential services are offered free of charge to help you transform your life no matter your age, gender, race or socio-economic status. We even have an on-site kennel for your pets!

We provide solutions to end domestic violence today and for future generations through empowerment, advocacy and innovative programs and services.

ToPrevailYoga, breath work, creative writing, art therapy, meditation, drumming circles and other clinically proven methods of healing are an integral part of this exciting program. These tools allow you to heal from the past, live fully in the present and plan for a life free from violence.

Our Gallery features artwork by victims who use this medium to subconsciously solve their life problems at a pre-symbolic level on a canvas, where it is safe to try. Each picture offers alternatives, solutions, possibilities.

Art creates a safe place between the conscious and subconscious mind, between you and your counselor, between you and your work.

Artwork is a way to engage in a liberating dialogue that provokes the integration of ideas. It leads you to a higher level of empowerment and self-knowledge.

Ivette M. Gomez, Facilitator

For more information, contact Ivette at igomez@naplesshelter.org, or call 239.775.3862.
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Our Clients’ Creative Expressions

My name is…it’s not important
What is important is the essence
After all our names just identify us
In a superficial way, our essence
Is our real Self

We demonstrate this in everything we pursue
In the way we talk and in everything we give
To talk about the drawings you are seeing,
I don’t want to!
I would enjoy more listening to the point of view
Of each one of you viewing them

Drawings talk by themselves
About my experience in the creative counseling sessions,a_little_tired
My experience doing yoga at the shelter,
And my private sessions with my counselor—Ivette

I learned not to lock myself inside
To look around and know
That there are other people sharing the same
That I am experiencing in this moment of my life

Sometimes one is too much with oneself
But when we come out of that self centeredness
We are able to see the infinite possibilities that exist
And the pain of others

InVEST: advocates and law enforcement collaborating on cases of high-lethality (high risk for domestic violence homicide)

Linda Hinds, Chair

Dave Maksymetz, Vice Chair

Bill Waltrip, Secretary

Scott Herstin, Treasurer

Arlene Shapiro, Past Chair

Tom Brand

Christy Carpenter

Lacey King

Dennis Ling

Rich Montecalvo

Dr. Kamela Patton

Sheriff Kevin Rambosk

Bob Tarter

Chief Tom Weschler

Karen Smith

Laurie Zone-Smith

Lacey King, Chair

JoAnn Remington, Past Chair

Erika Aron

Bette Aymar

Michael Benson

Warner Blow

Bob Cahners

Carol Dinardo

Terry Edwards

Dona Erkenbeck

Kathy Feinstein

Christine Flynn

Grace Frey

Dr. Barbara Jordan

Suzie Lount

Annette Pakula

Dylan Sanders

Glen Schwesinger

Niki Thompson

Donna Waltrip

Gail S. T. Webster

Niki Thompson, President

Pat Wheeler, First Vice President

Linda Sims, Second Vice President

Joanne Fowler, Secretary

Cindy Potter, Asst. Secretary

Peg Melillo, Treasurer

Christine Flynn, Past President

Cara Martin, Membership Chair

Deborah Trinka, Chair

Wilma Boyd

Kellie Burns

Shelly Davis

Linda O. Flores

Donna Gillroy

Jessica Horowitz

Kathy Karpovich

Trudy Labell

Janet Lee

Shelley Lund Hobbs

Michele McKenney

Lisa Mead

Patricia Murphy

Brenda O’Connor

Courtney Ott

JoAnn Remington

Cherry Smith

Kathleen van Bergen

Sandi Wilson

Rabbi Fishel Zaklos